I’d like to think that in this journey we call life, we are constantly growing and learning and desiring to see ourselves become “better” people. And, what I mean by that is that I hope we are consistently becoming more and more aware of the other people in our lives and treating them with selfless love, which should in turn revolutionize our ability to understand those who are different from ourselves with great ease. Those who we may consider to be hard to love.

In the most basic sense, as a Christian, it is my personal desire (and I would hope the common desire of all Christians) to become this “better” person by modeling my life after Christ, who in fact was able to love others selflessly; even those that were deemed unlovable.


It makes me cringe to think how we casually put people around us into this category of being “unlovable” in our eyes. How easy it is for us to turn our noses up when we disagree with them or turn a deaf ear when we think we know better than they do. Or what about when we simply don’t make time for that ┬áperson who just irritates the living daylights out of us. On purpose.

I do this. I do this all the time. I put people into the category of being unlovable simply by not loving them. It is a conscious decision I make and the only reasons I can think of for doing this are selfish excuses. They are just excuses. Excuses of being too busy or too tired or too overwhelmed with my own life situation to allow myself to understand what it might be like to be in someone else’s shoes.

And then I am reminded of grace.

I’m not talking about Grace Kelly, though I would love to write a post about her sometime! (note to self: watch Grace Kelly movies and reflect upon your experience) I am talking about grace. Grace. Grace — God’s grace. The unmerited, unhindered, favor we receive from God though we have done nothing to warrant it. And I think about the grace I have personally experienced and waded in, practically up to my neck, when I should have been completely parched and dry and how simply refreshing it was. Invigorating.

I want to learn how to better extend the grace that has been given to me so that I am better able to love others. I want to simply love more, just because. For no reason. No strings attached. No excuses.

I want to be more like Christ.

Let’s journey together in extending grace and love to those we have deemed hard to love or just simply unlovable. Let’s do this together.

Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiastes 4:12


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